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I'm an award winning Senior Cognitive Behavioural Therapist and Mindfulness Teacher. I help perfectionists learn how to manage their perfectionism. Welcome to my blog!

Hi, I'm Natalie

how to silence your inner critic

Your inner critic is the sound of self-criticism. It’s the negative voice in your head telling you you’re not good enough. Telling you you’re doing a bad job. Convincing you not to try something new because you’re guaranteed to fail. Sound familiar? Don’t worry, I’ve got you.   What is Self-Criticism and Why Do We […]

August 10, 2023

How to Silence Your Inner Critic & Feel ‘Good Enough’

Unhealthy perfectionism is often characterised by an excessive need for control. As a result, perfectionists may seem picky and highly critical of others. They’re so preoccupied with ensuring everything around them is flawless, they attempt to control situations or people. This can make relationships very tricky! So, why do perfectionists need control, and can they […]

August 10, 2023

Perfectionism and the Need for Control – How to Let Go

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Are You Feeling Low? Symptoms of general low mood may include feeling sad, anxious, or panicky. You may be more tired than usual or unable to sleep. You may also feel angry or frustrated and low on confidence or self-esteem. Most people feel low sometimes. It’s normal to have good days and bad days, ups […]

January 20, 2023

How to Improve Your Mood

What is Self-Sabotage and How to Spot It In simple terms, self-sabotage is when you hinder or undermine your own success. It can be difficult to identify self-sabotaging behaviour because the consequences might not be immediately obvious, making the connection unclear. One thing to look out for is whether your behaviours are aligned with your […]

November 8, 2022

Are You Self-Sabotaging Your Life?

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Do you ever find yourself ruminating? Going over things from the past again and again? Usually with a strong flavour of self-criticism and negativity? ‘I could have done this, I should have done that etc’. It’s very common among perfectionists who get stuck in a cycle of repetitively mulling over a thought or problem without […]

October 17, 2022

How to Break the Rumination Cycle

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Do You Feel Content? Contentment is a state of being happy and satisfied. It’s not the short-lived, excited kind of happy, it’s more like being peaceful and at ease. Feeling content means being satisfied with who you are, where you are, what you have and how far you’ve come. It’s not that you don’t have […]

October 17, 2022

How to Feel Content – Why Perfectionists Struggle and What to Do About It

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I’m passionate about mindfulness and I’m on a mission to make it as easy and accessible as possible. I believe it’s one of the best ways to find balance and avoid burnout. Mindfulness can serve as the perfect antidote to stress, it can help with many mental and physical health issues, as well as generally […]

September 23, 2022

Let’s Debunk 6 Common Mindfulness Myths

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Self-compassion is your secret superpower. Research shows it can have a significant positive impact on your mental health and overall wellbeing. Individuals who are more self-compassionate tend to have greater happiness and less anxiety and depression. It can help you tackle low self-esteem and there are other benefits too… Self-Compassion as an Antidote for Perfectionism Yes, […]

September 9, 2022

How Self-Compassionate Are You?

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What is Imposter Syndrome? Imposter syndrome is the chronic feeling of inadequacy and incompetence, despite success. In simple terms, it’s the experience of feeling like a phony, believing you are going to be found out any minute and revealed to be a fraud. You may feel like you don’t belong and believe any success you’ve achieved […]

August 26, 2022

5 Ways to Beat Imposter Syndrome

Perfectionism doesn’t just affect people on an individual level, it can impact our relationships too. The unhelpful thinking styles, habits and behaviours associated with perfectionism can create stress and tension, sabotaging relationships from within. Sound Familiar? Is perfectionism sabotaging your relationships? If you answer yes to some or all the questions below, perfectionism could be […]

August 12, 2022

Is Perfectionism Sabotaging Your Relationships?

Is perfectionism sabotaging your relationships