Do you ever find yourself ruminating? Going over things from the past again and again? Usually with a strong flavour of self-criticism and negativity? ‘I could have done this, I should have done that etc’. It’s very common among perfectionists who get stuck in a cycle of repetitively mulling over a thought or problem without […]
Self-compassion is your secret superpower. Research shows it can have a significant positive impact on your mental health and overall wellbeing. Individuals who are more self-compassionate tend to have greater happiness and less anxiety and depression. It can help you tackle low self-esteem and there are other benefits too… Self-Compassion as an Antidote for Perfectionism Yes, […]
What is Imposter Syndrome? Imposter syndrome is the chronic feeling of inadequacy and incompetence, despite success. In simple terms, it’s the experience of feeling like a phony, believing you are going to be found out any minute and revealed to be a fraud. You may feel like you don’t belong and believe any success you’ve achieved […]
Perfectionism doesn’t just affect people on an individual level, it can impact our relationships too. The unhelpful thinking styles, habits and behaviours associated with perfectionism can create stress and tension, sabotaging relationships from within. Sound Familiar? Is perfectionism sabotaging your relationships? If you answer yes to some or all the questions below, perfectionism could be […]
If you’ve realised you’re a perfectionist or started noticing some hidden signs you might be, perhaps you’re wondering why. Where does perfectionism come from? And is there anything you can do about it? What Causes Perfectionism? It’s unlikely there’s one single, isolated reason for your perfectionism. It’s usually down to a mixture of causes. Childhood […]
What if I told you there’s a chance you could be a perfectionist without even realising? Perfectionism can show up in many different ways, some more obvious than others. Many of my clients seek therapy knowing full well they’re perfectionists. It’s exactly what they want to work on, because let’s face it, being a perfectionist […]
What is People Pleasing? The dictionary definition of a people pleaser is ‘a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires’. People pleasers are often seen as kind and helpful. Behind this agreeable façade, they often struggle to advocate for themselves which […]
If you read my recent post, Are You a Perfectionist?, and decided you probably are, you might be wondering what to do about it. As I’ve said before, there’s a marked difference between high achievers and true perfectionists. Rather than simply working hard to achieve their goals, the latter group strives for flawlessness. They fixate […]
Are you a perfectionist? And so what if you are? Being a perfectionist is a good thing, right? It implies high standards, hard work and attention to detail. As a human, I want to agree. ‘Sure, there are plenty of benefits to being a perfectionist,’ I’d say. But as a CBT Therapist, I know this […]
