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natalie englander

I'm Natalie and this is my story

I used to think ‘I can’t be a perfectionist because I’m so far from perfect’. People called me a perfectionist, but I didn’t believe it!

I was almost embarrassed to think of myself as a perfectionist, as if it meant I believed I did everything perfectly. 

It wasn’t until my late teens, when I started feeling anxious and depressed, that I did some research and realised my perfectionism had spiralled out of control. This realisation sparked my obsession with understanding how perfectionism develops, its impacts, and how to manage it.

This journey led me to become a therapist, coach, mindfulness teacher, and speaker, empowering perfectionists with strategies to manage their perfectionism and achieve a sense of calm, confidence, and contentment.

My therapy approach

As a therapist specialising in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, I believe in the transformative power of exploring the intricate connections between our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. But my approach extends beyond traditional CBT – incorporating Compassion-Focused Therapy and Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy, I’m dedicated to helping you uncover the deeper roots of your beliefs and behaviours by understanding the impact of your past experiences.

With a trauma-informed lens, I prioritise empathy and understanding, asking not "what's wrong with you," but rather, "what happened to you." So much of perfectionism makes sense when we figure out what’s behind it! It is with this increased self-awareness that you’re able to develop self-compassion and become more mindful of unhealthy patterns.

I aim to offer the perfect blend between making sense of things and making positive goal-orientated changes. So once we’ve understood things we focus on practical skills-building and problem-solving, empowering you to develop healthier coping strategies and more adaptive ways of thinking. You’ll learn the tools you need to navigate life’s challenges with greater resilience and confidence.

With compassion at the core, therapy with me is characterised by friendly warmth, effectiveness, and productivity, providing a safe and welcoming space for transformative growth and self-compassion to flourish.

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Here's what past clients have achieved with my help:

'I have now become kinder to myself, I am more assertive and I kinda like myself now'


'I am now able to see myself as worthy'

'I have managed to break the link between my achievement level and my self worth'

'I don't even remember the last time I was anxious!'

'I am able to give myself compassion no matter what I achieve in a day'

'I’m now feeling much more confident and optimistic'

'My whole mindset has transformed. I feel so balanced across my life'

'Natalie really helped me settle my anxiety and perfectionism'

'I'm able to recognise and handle my perfectionist behaviours to ensure they serve me and don't hinder me'

'I feel far more free, I can manage my negative thoughts, I have so much more self-compassion'


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My experience

I'm a BABCP Accredited Senior Cognitive Behavioural Therapist & Coach, and a Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) Teacher.

I've been practicing CBT for over 13 years and have spent most of my time working in the NHS as a Senior CBT Therapist leading mental health services in London. I've also worked in private hospitals such as The Priory, and have worked with a range wide of client groups including children, teenagers and adults.

In 2024 I left my reputable job in the NHS as Deputy Clinical Lead & Principal CBT Therapist for a large Talking Therapies service in Hertfordshire, to continue my specialism in perfectionism and go full-time in my private practice.

I've also achieved Supervisor Accreditation status with the British Association for Behavioural & Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP).

My credentials

BSc Psychology
Newcastle University 2008-2011

PgDip Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
University of Herts 2011-2013

PgDip CBT for Children & Young People
UCL 2015-2017

CBT Supervisor Training
Royal Holloway 2017

Compassion Focused Therapy Training
Balanced Minds 2017

Mindfulness (MBCT) Teacher Training
Bangor University 2018

Group Therapy Training
Institute of Group Analysis 2019

Mindfulness for Life (MBCT-L) Teacher Training
University of Oxford 2021

Finding Peace in a Frantic World Teacher Training
University of Oxford 2021

Cognitive Behavioural Coaching (CBC) Training
Transformation Academy 2024

Outside of the therapy room...

I'm a fiance and a mummy to my identical twin toddler girls, and minnie the toy cockapoo!

Here's a few fun facts about me:
- I used to be a tomboy when I was little but now I love all things beauty, skincare, jewellery, manicures, clothes, the list goes on.
- Cheesy pasta and RHOBH is life.
- I have 3 brothers, and I come from a family of perfectionists.
- My toxic trait is researching things to the nth degree, or listening to songs on repeat.
- I'm into houses and interior design, and I watch every house renovation TV show going.

Home life

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If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and like nothing is ever good enough, you've come to the right place!

My work is all about helping perfectionists feel calm, confident and content - let's work together!

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