Wellbeing

Unhealthy perfectionism is often characterised by an excessive need for control. As a result, perfectionists may seem picky and highly critical of others. They’re so preoccupied with ensuring everything around them is flawless, they attempt to control situations or people. This can make relationships very tricky! So, why do perfectionists need control, and can they […]

Are You Feeling Low? Symptoms of general low mood may include feeling sad, anxious, or panicky. You may be more tired than usual or unable to sleep. You may also feel angry or frustrated and low on confidence or self-esteem. Most people feel low sometimes. It’s normal to have good days and bad days, ups […]

What is Self-Sabotage and How to Spot It In simple terms, self-sabotage is when you hinder or undermine your own success. It can be difficult to identify self-sabotaging behaviour because the consequences might not be immediately obvious, making the connection unclear. One thing to look out for is whether your behaviours are aligned with your […]

Do you ever find yourself ruminating? Going over things from the past again and again? Usually with a strong flavour of self-criticism and negativity? ‘I could have done this, I should have done that etc’. It’s very common among perfectionists who get stuck in a cycle of repetitively mulling over a thought or problem without […]

Do You Feel Content? Contentment is a state of being happy and satisfied. It’s not the short-lived, excited kind of happy, it’s more like being peaceful and at ease. Feeling content means being satisfied with who you are, where you are, what you have and how far you’ve come. It’s not that you don’t have […]

What is Imposter Syndrome? Imposter syndrome is the chronic feeling of inadequacy and incompetence, despite success. In simple terms, it’s the experience of feeling like a phony, believing you are going to be found out any minute and revealed to be a fraud. You may feel like you don’t belong and believe any success you’ve achieved […]

Perfectionism doesn’t just affect people on an individual level, it can impact our relationships too. The unhelpful thinking styles, habits and behaviours associated with perfectionism can create stress and tension, sabotaging relationships from within. Sound Familiar? Is perfectionism sabotaging your relationships? If you answer yes to some or all the questions below, perfectionism could be […]

If you’ve realised you’re a perfectionist or started noticing some hidden signs you might be, perhaps you’re wondering why. Where does perfectionism come from? And is there anything you can do about it? What Causes Perfectionism? It’s unlikely there’s one single, isolated reason for your perfectionism. It’s usually down to a mixture of causes. Childhood […]

What if I told you there’s a chance you could be a perfectionist without even realising? Perfectionism can show up in many different ways, some more obvious than others. Many of my clients seek therapy knowing full well they’re perfectionists. It’s exactly what they want to work on, because let’s face it, being a perfectionist […]

What are Emotions and Why Do We Have Them? Emotions are something we constantly feel. They can happen when certain actions or feelings stir a certain response within us. We may feel emotions due to a situation, an experience, or from memories. They help us understand the things we are experiencing and express the way […]

What is Self-Esteem? Self-esteem is how you value and perceive yourself. It’s based on your opinions and beliefs about yourself. These can feel very difficult to change, but healthy self-esteem is key to positive mental health and wellbeing. It’s critical for cultivating a satisfying life, and it’s also a predictor of performance and success. People […]